Wednesday, 30 April 2014

20 things I want to do with you!

1) Get a photobooth photo of us-(Cheesy black and white one)
2) Get tattoos
3)Bungee Jump together
4)Go paintballing together
5)Move in together
6)Married and babies etc
7)Travel together
8)Go on an overnight train together
9)Stay in a fancy hotel
10) Skinny Dip together
11) Get something pierced together
12) Play Cluedo together
13) Stay up all night together
14) Get Drunk together
15)Take mushrooms together
16)Make a sex tape
17)Make something together (jigsaw, blanket, table, painting, anything)
18)Have a midnight feast
19)Day long Movie Marathon
20)Collaborate on a song

Monday, 28 April 2014

Day 6

Today I'm grateful for...

My fabulous girlfriend who loves me, takes care of me and is my best friend through all the tough times as well as the good ones. Xx

Day 11

I am happy because I had a nice weekend catching up with Paul and I feel that my friends are secure, my boyfriend is secure and my future is in sight xx

Sunday, 27 April 2014

Day 10

I'm happy because on my first ever run I completed a triathlon hahaha!

Saturday, 26 April 2014

We've been together...

Result: 1660 days

It is 1660 days from the start date to the end date, end date included
Or 4 years, 6 months, 17 days including the end date

Alternative time units

1660 days can be converted to one of these units:
  • 143,424,000 seconds
  • 2,390,400 minutes
  • 39,840 hours
  • 1660 days
  • 237 weeks (rounded down)

Day 9

I'm happy because we sorted it out. Also because we had phone sex :)

Friday, 25 April 2014

Day 8

I am happy because I am finished University. I have no more lectures or tutorials. Just two essays and two exams and then I am free to start my life and do amazing things.
I will accomplish, i will travel, I will meet new people, I will love.
Above all I am to be happy and remember that even during the bad times, I am alive and therefore I am capable of doing anything.
I am proud of myself xxx

Day 7

I'm happy because three years of stress and upset has been sorted and I can move on!

Day 5

I am happy because...

It's the weekend!!! :)

Wednesday, 23 April 2014

Day 6

Today I am happy because I handed in my essay and I have a day to relax!

Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Sunday, 13 April 2014

Day 5

I'm happy because i've had a lovely morning with my granny!

Saturday, 12 April 2014

Friday, 11 April 2014

Your family adore you!

Your Dad was very sad after hanging up the phone with you. He was worried you seemed down and I think he missed you desperatly at his birthday!

When I told him that I sent you pictures of the T-shirt and you were laughing, he totally cheered up and was delighted you were in a good mood!

I love you so much and you're such a loved person, it's overwhelming :)



Day 3...

Today I am happy because....

I know that I always have a fantastic family who will always support me.

Day 3

Today I am happy because I received an email telling me my donation of 5 euro a month to Simon community has just seen a homeless man move into a room off the street! I was sent photos of the room and I'm just thrilled that I could give something so small and helped another human being!

Thursday, 10 April 2014

Day 2

Today I am happy because of many reasons. One, the love of my life is alive and well. Two, I have been headhunted for another Masters and three because a student of mine who I am really fond of from Beijing has just been accepted to an amazing school in Canada and i'm proud of her and her bravery and I know she will do great things.

Wednesday, 9 April 2014

Day 2...

Today I am happy because...

I have an amazing girlfriend who cares about me so so much:)

Day 1

Today I am happy because....

... I found out that I'll have plenty of money to enjoy myself over the next 4 months and plenty to have a really special time with my girlfriend too:)

Tuesday, 8 April 2014

100 days of happiness

I am going to do 100 days of happiness so that even when i'm stressed out or lonely or angry I will have to find something good about the day and thus realise not everything is as bad as it seems and also tat positivity is important for us.

It's a good idea for you too :)

So hear goes...

DAY 1: Today I realise i'm in a long term relationship with my one true love. I am so lucky xxx
Hey, I read your letter. I think it's good that you sent it to me. I hate to think of you being insecure or sad because of our relationship. I don't want you to think that I talk to you like I talk to anyone else, I don't. Talking to you and hearing about how you are is the highlight of my day. You're the only person I'll really let my true feelings be known to. The last few weeks have been hectic and I've been really anxious about not having enough time to talk to you- both because I want to hear from you and I know you want to make sure I'm ok but also because I just want to talk to you. I guess I forgot that other things are important in making us feel good in the relationship. Like letting you know when I'm thinking of you. I don't want you to be insecure. I want you to know that you're the most important person to me. Of course this trip will change me but not as profoundly as you think. I'll still adore you, still think about you still miss you. I'll still look forward to seeing you, bringing you everywhere when you're over. I'll still love you.You mean the world to me, and feel free to forget that because I plan on reminding you. We won't be ok. We'll be far better than that. We'll be great.

Always yours,


Al Xxx

Monday, 7 April 2014

My Letter to you from Friday Night....

Dear Alan,

It's 5am and I haven't slept. I tried to at 2am but lying in the dark made me more awake than i'd felt all day. This week I've been an insomniac, desperately seeking sleep but not allowing myself enough hours.
It's ok, tonight I enjoy being awake. It's quiet, except for the rain, I can hear nothing. I feel like i'm the only person in the whole world who is awake and I feel blissfully alone. It's like my secret.  So I read the Time Travellers Wife again. It was nice to delve into someone else's relationship for a change. I could immerse myself in their time apart, distance, upset, fear joy etc instead of ours.

This time it's harder. This time you're away and instead of being the same, in your own environment, you're changing. That's not to say it's a bad change- it's just a necessary change-inevitable since you're doing something so remarkable and adventurous and new. You're learning more about yourself and what you want/what you're capable of.
This excites and terrifies me. When I was in China I knew my emotions. I knew myself, I understood and controlled my changing "self". I knew you stayed the same in Cork.

Now I don"t know your emotions, needs, wants. I don't know your changes and I can't control it. It may not even be a dramatic change, perhaps unnoticeable. The fear is not knowing.
I'm afraid that all of this may, potentially, lead you away from me.

We talk about your day to day but not really how you feel. It's friendly, not really loving or how we used to talk-just factual as if you were talking to Katelyn or Steve or Doc. I miss the way you used to talk to me.
We've argued about Katelyn- I know this has pissed you off. I know this has upset you and I'm in a dilemma of telling you how I feel and risking pushing you away or bottling up and resenting you.
I just wish you didn't put me in these situations- that sensitivity and understanding would factor in before these situations arise.
I don't want to tell you any of this- that everyday I feel I know you less and i'm afraid you're wanting me/loving me/understanding me less and less. It's only been three weeks and I'm already so unsure.

I know you'll tell me it'll be fine and that i'm being ridiculous. To the point that I might not even give you this letter. Although I want to show you how I feel, what goes through my head.

I don't want you to get the wrong idea, i'm not trying to be dramatic or claim you don't love me or want me. I'm trying to share with you a piece of me. My thoughts at the moment, what motivates my worries. I'm sharing with you my loneliness and fears and the reason i'm reading a book about two true lovers torn apart by time so that for an hour I'm not torn apart by it-by the fear of not knowing or being able to control how you feel. By giving you my heart-my most precious possession and being terrified everyday you're away from me that you'll forget you have my heart in your hand.

I guess I just wanted to let you know that I miss you. I miss you especially when we talk. It's then I miss you the most, the way we used to talk, the way you were to me before on the phone, loving, cute, attentive instead of now when you're just friendly or sometimes sarcastic, narky and quick to snap. It reminds me of the fight we had at the beginning of your last week in Cork with me, the way you were to me on the bus before the lunch. I'm frightened you resent me deep down but feel you've no other option but to be with me.

You're foreign to me at the moment- i'm uncertain how you feel day to day and i'm frightened of asking or bringing it up or being upset by the way you'd treat me for fear you won't get it and you'll just push me away more.

I don't even know if this is just my form of catharsis or if I plan to send it. I don't know if you'd read it the way it's intended or if you'll just see it as melodrama. Who knows.

Friday, 4 April 2014

Awake

I stayed up all night because I couldn't sleep. Not sure why I couldn't sleep, it's been like this all week.
This night in particular, I wrote a letter, one so cathartic and honest that it has left me relieved and revived. I feel free to be a better person in myself.
I am moving on from the past, from the fear and jealousy and anger and disappointment.
I want to be a happier, lighter and more confident woman. So I'm forgiving and forgetting my old torments and i'm moving forward. x

Sneaky Mom....

Found this on your phone....didn't know you took it.